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This isnt a thread for porn, but it is a thread for questions, insight, and discussion regarding sex, sexuality, and human attraction (not covered by the cheesecake/sexual thread).

It's just...something im leaving here as a service to this part of the forum. Play nice in my sex thread, or I will report you. And the name of the thread is a reference to an album by a certain band.

Also, I have had some college education in areas related to sexuality and gender, so if you want, you can ask me directly here.
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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #1 on: June 17, 2013, 07:30:46 AM »
Ummmm....?
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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #2 on: June 17, 2013, 07:48:50 AM »
I am still questioning the name of this thread.

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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #3 on: June 17, 2013, 07:58:26 AM »
I'm sure the subject title is not meant to be taken seriously. Stormthorn has explained what the thread is for.

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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #4 on: June 17, 2013, 10:10:30 AM »
well this should be interesting to watch where this leads up to....lol




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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #5 on: June 17, 2013, 01:29:29 PM »
well this should be interesting to watch where this leads up to....lol

It dont have to lead anywhere. But if one of the late teens has a question or someone has a rant, now they have a place for it.

@Craig: The all-caps part of the title is, indeed, just an eyecatch.

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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #6 on: June 17, 2013, 03:05:14 PM »
ok so if this is for discussing sexuality if you wanna call this a sexuality topic i guess....there is one thing i wanna ask about...and please dont judge me.....
so when it comes to sexuality, i think im bi....but then again idk if i am or if its something else....and i dont usually talk about my pers life...if you wanna call it that, and its not venting
so me being bi, yeah i like girls, and yeah i guess i like guys somewhat,but not to where i wanna have a long term rel w, and ill get back to the liking guys part....

ignore that part for now

so about me:
im 20 years old...not in college yet....dont have any more friends now being they all moved to college or away from where i live after hs got out....so i dont really have anyone to hang out with....and that said i didnt ahve anyone to hang out with for about 3 years...so i guess you can tell that i was on my own for a little.....

another thing about me.....yes i was in scouts.....but that doesnt make me any different...and infact, if it wasnt for the bsa, i would be a completely different person/prob wouldnt be her even.....and the thing about the bsa is it helped shaped who i am, helped me grow more into an adult/become more mature....and the thing about it, yes i did work at a summer camp.....but this camp was different than most camps, bcs the program in the camp was prob one of the best in the us....but thats not why i brought it up....while working there for 4 years...i met some ppl or got to know the ppl i was working with....and the thing about it was it was pretty much the whole summer that u go up there and work....not everyone got to work there...only the best role models that they saw were picked as staff,being well you were basically a role model for the kids that came up to the camp each week.....so you basically were going to know the people you worked with....and you became more of a family being youre up there for 3 months....and the job wasnt for the money....it was for the kids, with only 120.00 a week(or thats what i got anyways)it def wasnt for the money

anyways....while i worked up there...i met some ppl that i met that soon became best friends with me, a few ppl i guess you would say they were my more closer friends or who knew about me i guess or knew some personal stuff about me....not to sound weird but theyw ere like a brother to me in a way/2 or 3 of em....

there was one however that found out about my personal life that i never told anyone about and it turned out he also went through the same thing......at 1st when i told him i didnt think anything about it being i didnt really think of....or i didnt really think it was that bad of a thing(well it was but i didnt really think too much of it)when i told him idk what happened, but i guess it got to him and i guess he wanted to cry bcs he knew how i felt, i guess, and he hugged me, but i didnt know what to think being that noone ever hugged me for that kind of reason, ir i didnt really know how to express my feelings i guess....idk.....
when i think about it...back then i didnt think anything about it but now when i think about it, that was the 1st person that knew how i felt or knew what i went through more of i guess.....i didnt cry then but if i realized what actually happened then i guess i might of cried a little too.....
but the reason it got to me was bcs he was the only person i met who knew who i felt or what i went through basically i guess

but either way he told me a little about what happened to him at 1st when i confesed about my prob, but pretty much after that he never said anything else and any time i asked him about anything,including hey what are you doing today...hed get mad and then pretty much that day he was going to the hospital to check on his dad's cancer and see what was going on with that

but anyway...him and a few other people i got to know personally ish...kind of...
or basically we became like brothers i guess....family if ud call it

but the ppl that i did get to know on a personal level were the only people i know of.....noone else were like them i guess

4 years pass and new leadership comes on the camp....and pretty much some stuff happened,mostly money wise and i basically got fired

thats fine and all and i was told i was able to reaply again....but the only thing though is people who ik since i began working there stoped talking to me.....people started to delete me off facebook...then people started to block me on fb...and more deleted me....just bcs the fact of me getting fired....kind of like you got fired i can give 2 avocados of you, youre nothing to me
basically
even the few people that were really close to me deleted/blocked me for no reason just like that.
the one that who i became the closest with did delete me.....but after a while like a year or 2 later when i helped somehwere and he was there as well, he told me to add him back, bcs i guess that dad i was really sad/depressed and i guess he saw it in my face or something....idr...but he was gna talk to me i guess but when i added him he never did anything.......then i think in october while i still didnt have anyone to hang out with for the 3 years he told me that he would find a day to hang out(being he had 2 jobs and didnt live where i do/lives up north)....half a year passes and still nothing....i finally confront him about it and that time he said he would figure something out that time and that he promised.....1 week later he says to never talk to him again......and then i havent talked to him since

idk what i did wrong or why i made ppl think what they did/do what they did and even now im still confused...i really dont know what i did...i prob have to give it time but that prob wont matter anyways....


so now to the main thing....and sorry if i bored you/if you got lost
but back to the main topic/reason for the post/question
so i think im bi/at the same time i dont bcs i dont know if it means i really am bi or if its something else
that being said........the thing about me is i do like girls yes....id like to have a family when i get older yeah
but for some reason i like guys too in a way...when i say in a way,when come relationship wise, i dont think i could do a relationship w a guy, especially long term...1:that would be weird and 2:id like to have a family when i do grow up....
the thing ive been looking for a while away from the whole bi/liking guy thing i guess is

the 1 guy that knew me the most personal i guess or who knew my problems...i guess...now that he doesnt want anything to do with me most likely, is im looking for someone who knows what i went through i guess or knows how i feel i guess....unfortunately,the problems i did have before they arent as bad atm,but i still deal with them......my dad gets drunk every day mostly now, except for a day or 2 of where he has a hang over, but in the past he wasnt very nice when he was drunk and sometimes was mean,or aggresive, to say the least....but thats all ill say....my dad isnt that bad now,being he came out of jail earlier this year, but starting to drink more and more, and the more and more he does drink and does whatever the more and more i get sad and depressed....and theres noonne that i talk to now.....or that i can talk to about anything personal........

the 1 thing im looking for atm is someone whos my age who knows what i go through and knows how i feel....or who i can relate to more of....yeah i dont mind talking to a girl yeah, but this subject i wouldnt really talk to a girl bcs its more of a guy thig/subject, or i coulnt really conect to a girl more of i guess(subject wise)...idk if thats weird/bad of me to say that

but the 1 thing im looking for is a guy around my age....not a bf more of...but more of smne that i can talk to about anything that i can actually relate to.....that knows how i fell or knows what i went/gp through i guess........someone who i can look up to as a role model(maybe not that)...or like a brother i guess........someone to hang out with and do stuff with....a best friend i guess....and smne who actually does live close by atleast...not someone online/5000 miles away from where i live.......just someone......not a bf though

thats the thing.....idk what that means, or if that means im bi or what or gay even(i hope not)
idk if thats wierd of me to say this, but thats the thing im confuse about

i dont want a bf, but more of a best friend/brother i guess, someone who i can relate to...but idk if that makes me bi or no


sorryu if i confused anyone btw...i was kind of(not venting) typing freely what was in my mind at the same time trying not to forget what i wanted to put down origionally(i think what i have down here might be a little different than what i actually wanted to type....i hate that)
but yeah...heres my q

(rubs eyes) ok i read it all.

based on what you wrote i think your confusing bi with needing/wanting a best friend/bromance (unless i read it wrong, that was a lot to read).

if you have that kinda feeling in your heart, and onyl your heart. its probly more that your lonly and want a bestfriend. if you have that feeling in your heart and "down town" then maybe you are bi. theres no way to knwo for sure until you take that leap and try it out. just make sure yoru partner knows that your unsure of weather or nto your bi so they dont get destryed if you decied your not in it for the logn run, becuse gays (you have to accept that if your a bi male, you may date a gay male, as its all good to them) and other bi males have feelings too. just take it slow ^_^

as to starting a family. you aculty dont even need a female for it. if you stick with a male theres always adoption or even finding a sergoet mother were you or your partners sprem is artifucly insiminated and the woman carrys the child to term for you, thus now you have a child thats yoru own or your partners own blood.

granted you mention your not sure you wanted to talk to a girl about this. and i am a girl and younger then you. so if your not willing to talk about it with me thats fine and understandable ^_^, wish you the best of luck ether way ^_^
My point has finally been made ^_^ (viva la Agy!)

anywho

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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #7 on: June 25, 2013, 02:13:20 PM »
Hmmm.

Bisexuality is a difficult topic to pin down. Psychologically speaking to call someone bi you would really need a long personal history and their preferences.

Anyways, intense friendships between men can look a lot like romances but it isnt an anything-sexuality if you dont want to **** the target of your affection, at least a little.

If sexuality isnt involved but something akin to romantic closeness is then I would go with the totally unofficial call of needing a close male friend/female friend with certain masculine attributes.

If sexuality is involved then keep in mind that straight, gay, and bi exist on a spectrum of sexual expression. Look hard enough and you find expressions like demisexual and bi-curious (a phrase usually seen with adolescent or early-adult women).

Anyways, just my two cents on that topic.

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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #8 on: June 29, 2013, 12:08:52 AM »
when i removed my post i was hopeing that (oviously wasnt gna happen) the rest of the stuff were to be gone but ill have to tell bob or agy to remove the post

but its a subject that really has nothing to do w bi/gay or the thread
it was actually something of a diff area that i guess i needed help on a personal level that at 1st figured would be appropiate for the thread but is something nobody on the forums can truely help the thing and most likely nobody wanted to read/get into or nobody really cares for
and just like how microsoft is bad at story telling i relize i didnt tell the story well enough/correctly but also didnt wanna get in a pers level bcs of how depressed i would of gotten from telling the actual thing

so i guess its a matter of when bob removes the above quote that agy has




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Re: H3@VEN IS AN 0RgA5M (for questions, comments, discussion about sex)
« Reply #9 on: June 29, 2013, 02:35:51 AM »
My comments addressed a wide topic. Agy's addressed you.

If you really need help on anything and dont want to seek it out in your hometown, I have those degrees and may be able to offer a little. In fact, I even worked at a farmers market, so if you need help cleaning a wide stretch of asphalt, I may be your guy.

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